What I Said at the Friendship Prayer Service

It’s funny that the God Squad asked me to give today’s talk about Friendship because it’s my job at this school to teach about argument and debate. I teach my students to anticipate what the opposition is going to say, analyze their weaknesses, and crush them in debates. Not very friendly. But we have a saying in my class and that is in argument, you must first seek to understand, then to be understood. If you release yourself of the responsibility of trying to change someone else’s mind, then you are free to try to understand the other person’s point…

The Ghost Daughter 

My housemate from college, Laura Alvarez, is an important artist and she and her husband will always be in the acknowledgements of every book I ever write because their approach to life and art is an astonishment that never ceases to inspire me. I swear sometimes I don’t know if I’d even be a writer today if it weren’t for their encouragement. Well, Laura loved my novel The Ghost Daughter, and really got what I was trying to do there which is an amazing feeling that truly hardly ever happens. She wrote about it on her amazing fashion, art, and inspiration…

Write Letters On Paper

My friend Laura and I have been exchanging handwritten letters for twenty-eight years. The first is from the summer of 1988. I still have it. The last was from over a week ago. I read it and reread it. My friend Laura is an excellent artist and writer. She is a storyteller like no one else I know. When email started being a thing I was afraid our letters would stop. She lives in L.A., I live in Northern California. Email was so easy. We can’t write too many emails, I warned her.  I shouldn’t have worried. Now we message…

Fun with Archetypes: Guidance Cards

As a writer of fantasy, I love twisting my knowledge of mythology, folklore and ancient archetypes around to make something new. Fiction isn’t the only thing you can make using mythology as material. I invented a craft idea that every now and then I put together for a friend or group of friends using very personal mythologies and archetypes. It doesn’t cost very much, and it creates a fun guidance card game that’s sort of like your own private Tarot deck. Here is a picture of a pack of goddess archetype cards I made for a group of my friends. Ready…